Beauty - the Reality!!

Rahul is a guy who always falls a prey to beauty and appearances.He likes to befriend a person just for the fact that he is smart.In short he feels smartness is equal to sophistication.

In company he recently joined, he noticed that there were not many smart and beautiful people around.But Still  he did manage to locate a couple of them.He thanked God for that as at least he can try to establish a relationship with them.

Leaving the beautiful ladies in the list apart the story's focus is on  the Mr.Handsome -Gowtham.

Gowtham is in a lead position in the company and Rahul was in his team.Rahul felt elated and fortunate for this.

There is a known fact that where there is a handsome man, there will always be girls and even guys around him to flatter him.But it was strange that none was around Gowtham in spite of his good looks and professional looking behavior.

Rahul found it more mysterious than before and wanted to definitely talk and end up in a good rapport with Gowtham.He inquired about Gowtham to his team mates who have been working with him for the same tenure.

But he could just hear people telling not much about his character but more about his workaholic nature.He was wondering why could any one not tell about his personal traits.He even questioned that and the answer was that Gowtham was very professional and he does not like to indulge in any personal relationships with any one.In fact this was one of the reasons for him becoming the Lead soon.

Rahul was very attracted now towards him and he made up his mind to make Gowtham his best buddy in the office.

During the team meetings and task allocations Rahul had opportunities to talk to Gowtham but just professionally.Rahul was waiting for a chance to initiate casual talks and he found that Gowtham stays near to him.

Rahul planned to stay late at work and wanted to travel with Gowtham to his place in Gowtham's car.

It was 10 at night when Gowtham started back to his residence and found that Rahul was sitting all alone blinking at the monitor.

Gowtham: Hey...no signs of leaving?

Rahul: Ya Gowtham, Have to.But this code is not working out.
 

Gowtham: The dead line is on Friday.Two more days to go.So Come little early tomorrow and wrap it up.Leave now.Common.
 

Rahul:Yeah Gowtham.If you say then it will be correct as you are my lead.I will pack up now.
 

Gowtham:I just said what I felt could be right.May be you know your skills better.Decide accordingly.Bye!
 

Rahul:Iam planning to leave.Bye! (Wanted Gowtham to ask for accompanying him)..(Does not want to lose this chance), Gowtham, do you go to your home now?
 

Gowtham: Yes, of course.Do you have any problems in that?
 

Rahul:(Surprisingly shocked!!)Hey not at all!I think you live at Royapettah, where I do reside.Hence thought if I could come along with you as I have not booked any cab or I don't have any straight buses there.
 
Gowtham:Hm!I don't encourage this at office.If you have the plan to stretch then you should have the mind to book a cab as well.This is judiciously right.Do you really want to drop you????(eye brows lifted up with a mark of sarcasm.)
 

Rahul:Well, I told my practical difficulties in commuting and thought you would be kind enough to drop me.Still if you are not comfortable then...
 

Gowtham:Hey stop it...Just shut down your machine and come.I will drop you.I have not done this for many.Still I pity you.Come, but mind it this is the last time too.
 

Rahul:Thank you Boss!I mean it.(a sign of relief and victory)
 

Gowtham was in deed a good driver.He was not talking anything and was just looking at the roads chewing a bubble gum.
 

Rahul:Hey man!You don't seem like an introvert!! But still you keep calm always.Is that because you want to be professional? Sorry, Just out of curiosity..
 

Gowtham:(A mild laugh and a wink!)No my boy, not at all.Iam not an extrovert.Iam very concerned when it comes to talking.Its a serious business in deed.
 

Rahul:Boss, even talking is a business for you!OMG!!(Laughing)
 

Gowtham:Yeah, this is a business minded world.So everything is a business for me and for you too.May be you  are little young to understand this.How old are you?
 

Rahul:Iam not very old.Just 22 years.I hope you will be not more than 27.
 

Gowtham:So you are indirectly asking my age!(hahah).Well, Iam one among the so called middle aged group.Entered 30 just a month back.
 

Rahul:Is it.....I cannot believe!!You look really younger than your age....You are smart man!!!
 

Gowtham: Is it?I don't consider that.
 

Minutes passed and pin drop silence prevailed inside the car.
 

Rahul:(Again trying to play his master plan!)Gowtham, By the way how long have you been here ?I mean with the company.
 

Gowtham:Why do you want to know that?Planning to complain about me and kick me out!?
 

Rahul:OMG!! why do you ask such weird questions?Not at all.Just want to know about your experiences here and something about the company.
 

Gowtham:My experiences!Nothing to do for you.You have to get your own experiences.About the company, the HR would have told you elaborately in the Induction meeting.
 

Rahul:OK Iam sorry!I think you are not interested to answer such questions.You carry on with your driving.
 

Gowtham:HAHAHA!Not really.But kind of true!
 

 Rahul was thinking what was Gowtham made of.His attitude towards people and his subordinates were very different in fact strange.Still Rahul had an inclination towards people who are smart.So he wanted to explore more about Gowtham.
 

 Rahul:Gowtham, Can I ask you one last thing before I get down?
 

Gowtham:Yes , what's that?Do you want to pay me for this drive?
 

Rahul:What!?What do you say??you want me to pay for this ride!!sorry, that was not.I wanted to ask you if you are married.
 

Gowtham:Well, that should be a question for a beautiful girl or a question from a beauty to me.Why do you want o know that?What the hell are you going to do with the information?!Are you trying for any other kind of relationship with me??Stupid!!Iam not such a kind of person.I don't talk more and don't like being asked more too.Understand!Do your job and stay away.I play a key role in the company's decision making process.So better be careful with me.Common get down here.I have to take a U-turn now for my home.
 

Rahul was completely broken.OH!!! what kind of a creature he is !?He is talking too much and too bad!! Am I looking for any other relationship with him???????Humbug!You ........

Rahul wanted to blast out at Gowtham.But he cannot afford to as he has recently joined this company and he cannot resign his job now due to his commitments.

He also found the reason why people don't talk about Gowtham much and just commit a few words about him.His mind was boggling thinking what had happened a few minutes back

The sparkling eyes, the pointed sharp nose, the charismatic smile and the handsome Gowtham in all was fading in this memories as the reality in him has hammered the external beauty in Rahul's mind.

Rahul started feeling that beauty is not skin deep.The attitude and thought of a person towards other people and life decide the beauty of the person.

- Aj@y

வேலை!

 



காலை பத்து மணி; "இன்னும் கண்ணம்மா வரலையா!!!??,எங்க போனா அவ!ஆயிரம் வேலை இருக்கு வீட்ல இன்னைக்கு.இவ எப்போ வந்து எப்போ வேலைய முடிச்சு, ஹ்ம்ம் !!!!! ஊர்ல இருந்து அவங்க எல்லாம் வரத்துக்குள்ள இங்க எல்லாம் தயாரா இருக்க வேண்டாமா?கொஞ்சம் கூட பொறுப்பே இல்ல!நம்ம வேலை செய்யற வீடாச்சே, நம்ம வரலைன்னா என்ன ஆகும்னு கொஞ்சம் கூட யோசிக்கிறது இல்ல.சே.!!!!"என்று புலம்பிக்கொண்டிருந்தாள் சாரா!!

சட்டென்று திரும்பிப்பார்க்க , அங்கே அவள் வீட்டு வேலைக்காரம்மா கண்ணம்மா நின்று கொண்டிருந்தாள் தலை குனிந்த படி.

"அம்மா, வீட்ல சின்ன பிரச்சனைம்மா, என் பொண்ணுக்கு இன்னைக்கு ஸ்கூல்ல பணம் கட்ட கடைசி நாள் மா.என் கிட்ட அவளோ பணம் இல்ல.நீங்களும் அடுத்த வாரம் தான் தர முடியும்னு சொல்லிடீங்க.அதன் அந்த டீச்சர் கிட்ட போய் இன்னும் கொஞ்ச நாள் அவகாசம் கேட்க போனேன்.இல்லைனா என் பொண்ணு படிப்பு அவளோ தான் மா.பாவம் நல்லா படிக்குது இப்போ.மன்னிச்சிருங்க மா.இதோ அரை மணி நேரத்துல எல்லா வேலையையும் முடிச்சிடறேன்." என்று அப்பாவித்தனமாக பேசினாள் கண்ணம்மா.

"ஹ்ம்ம் எப்போவும் ஏதாவது காரணம் வெச்சிருப்பயே .புதுசு புதுசா சொல்லு.வேலை எவ்வளவு முக்கியம்னு உனக்கு தெரியலை.இந்த வேலை இல்லைன்னா நீ என்ன செய்ய முடியும்.அந்த எண்ணமே கிடையாது.எப்போவும் ஏதாவது ஒரு பிரச்சனைனு ஒண்ணு வர மாட்ட , இல்ல தாமதமா வருவ.அதுவும் எனக்கு ரொம்ப முக்கியமான நாள்ல.பணம் மட்டும் சரியா முதல் தேதி கொடுத்துடனும்.என்ன செய்ய எனக்கு வேற வழி இல்ல.சரி சீக்கிரம் ஆகட்டும்" என்று வேலையின் முக்கியத்துவத்தை பற்றி ஒரு சிற்றுரை ஆற்றி விட்டு,தன் அலுவலக மேலாளரை  தொலைபெசியில் அழைத்தாள் சாரா.

"சார்! நான் தான் சாரா,மன்னிச்சிருங்க சார், இன்னைக்கு மட்டும் என்னால வேலைக்கு வர முடியாது.ஒரு சின்ன பிரச்சன்னை வீட்ல.எங்க அம்மா அப்பா எல்லாம் கூட ஊர்ல இருந்து வராங்க.நான் தான் இங்க எல்லாத்தையும் பார்த்துக்கணும்.இன்னைக்கு ஒரு நாள் மட்டும் தான் சார்.இனிமே ஒழுங்கா வந்துடறேன்" என்று கெஞ்சலாகப் பேசினாள்.

எதிர் முனையில்,"என்ன மா இது!! இந்த மாசத்துல இது மூணாவது முறை நீ இப்படி அனுமதி கேக்குற.வேலை பத்தி கொஞ்சம் கூட கவலை இல்லை.சம்பளம் மட்டும் நிறைய கொடுக்கணும்.ஆனா வேலை மட்டும் ஒழுங்கா செய்ய மாட்டீங்க.ரொம்ப மோசம். உன்னை நம்பி ஒரு பொறுப்பு இருக்கேன்னு துளி கூட கவலை இல்லை.சரி இது தான் கடைசி.என்னவோ பண்ணுங்க".என்று அழைப்பை துண்டித்தார் மேலாளர்.

"அப்பா!! எப்படியோ இந்த ஆளு கிட்ட அனுமதி வாங்கியாச்சு.வேலையாம் வேலை பெரிய வேலை.கொடுக்கிற சம்பளத்துக்கு இதுவே ஜாஸ்தி.வீட்டை பத்தி நினைப்பே இருக்க கூடாது இவங்களுக்கெல்லாம்.எப்போவும் வேலை வேலை தான்.கடவுளே!!எப்படியோ இன்னைக்கு சமாளிச்சுட்டேன்" என்று சொல்லி திரும்பினாள் சாரா,அங்கே நின்று கொண்டிருந்த கண்ணம்மா தன்  பார்வையாலே "என்ன இது!!ஹ" என்று கேட்டு விட்டு சென்றாள் .சாரவும் அசடு வழிந்து கொண்டே, "சரி சரி சீக்கிரம் வேலை ஆகட்டும்" என்று நகர்ந்தாள் .

கோ .அஜய் 

இது தான் வாழ்க்கை!!!

 


பக்கத்து வீட்டில் ஒரே சத்தம்!!உடனே, அருணா " என்னங்க, இப்போ கொஞ்ச நாளா இப்படித் தான் அடிக்கடி சண்டையும் கூச்சலுமா இருக்கு,அந்த பொண்ணு வீணா யாரையோ காதலிக்கிறா  போல.அவ கல்யாண பேச்சு ஆரம்பிச்சதிலிருந்து இதே மாதிரி தான் பிரச்சனை அவங்க வீட்ல.எல்லாரும் நம்ம பொண்ணு லேகா போல இருப்பாங்களா!நல்ல பொண்ணு நம்ம சொன்னதை படிக்கிறா ,நாளைக்கு நம்ம சொன்ன பையனைத் தான் கட்டுவா, குனிஞ்ச தலை நிமிராத பொண்ணு.என்ன சொல்றீங்க!! என்றாள்.

உடனே,அவள் கணவன் ஆறுமுகமும், ஆமா டீ , நம்ம லேகா பத்தர மாத்துத் தங்கம்.நம்ம வளர்ப்பு இல்ல பின்ன எப்படி!!நாம தேர்ந்தெடுக்கற வாழக்கையைத் தான் அவ வாழுவா!!.பாவம் அந்த பரமசிவம்,அவன் பொண்ணு வீணானால அவனுக்கு எப்போவுமே நிம்மதி இல்ல.

அப்போது யாரோ கதவை தட்டும் சத்தம் கேட்க ,ஆறுமுகம், கதவை திறந்தான்.அங்கே பக்கத்து வீட்டு பரமசிவம் நின்று கொண்டு இருந்தான்.அவனை ஏளனமாக பார்த்துக்கொண்டு இருந்த ஆறுமுகத்திடம் ,உள்ளே வரலாமா? என்றான் பரமசிவம்.

ஹ்ம் !! வாங்க வாங்க என்று முகம் சுளித்து வரவேற்றான் ஆறுமுகம்.!

இங்க பாருங்க ஆறுமுகம்,நான் ஒண்ணு சொல்லணும் உங்க கிட்ட.ஒரு அஞ்சு நிமிஷம் பேசணும், கொஞ்சம் பொறுமையா கேளுங்க.

நம்ம பசங்க வாழ்க்கையை  அவங்களுக்கு பிடிச்ச மாதிரி அமைச்சு கொடுக்க வேண்டியது நம்ம கடமை.நாம வாழணும்னு நினைச்ச வாழ்க்கையை அவங்கள வாழச் சொல்லி கட்டாயப்படுத்தக்கூடாது.

உங்க பொண்ணு லேகா இது வரைக்கும், எல்லா விஷயத்துலயும் நீங்க சொல்ற மாதிரி தான் நடந்துருக்கா.ஆனா இப்போ நீங்க அவ கல்யாண விஷயத்துலயும் உங்களுக்கு பிடிச்ச ஒரு மாப்பிள்ளையைத்   தான் கல்யாணம் செய்யணும் அப்படின்னு வற்புருத்துறீங்க.

ஆனா அவ வேறு ஒரு பையனை விரும்புறா!அவனைத் தான் கல்யாணம் செய்யணும்னு ஆசை படுறா.பாவம் உங்க கிட்ட அதை எப்படி சொல்லுவா?!உங்க விருப்பத்துக்கு மாறா அவ இது வரைக்கும் நடந்ததுஇல்ல, நீங்க நடக்கவும் விட்டதில்லை.அதனால அவளுக்கு உங்க கிட்ட சொல்ல பயம்.சின்ன வயசுல இருந்து என் பொண்ணு மாதிரி பழகினதால, என் கிட்ட இந்த விஷயத்தை சொன்னா. 

என் மனைவியும் பொண்ணும் இந்த விஷயத்துல என்னை தலையிட வேண்டாம் அப்படின்னு சொல்லிகிட்டே இருக்காங்க.

இதனால எங்களுக்குள்  சண்டை கூட வருது.இப்போ கூட இது தான் பிரச்சினை.ஆனா என்னால ஒரு பொண்ணு வாழக்கை வீணா போறதை பார்த்துட்டு சும்மா இருக்க முடியலை.அதான் இன்னைக்கு  என்ன ஆனாலும் சரி  உங்க கிட்ட சொல்லிடணும்னு வந்தேன்.

என் பொண்ணு கிட்ட கூட அவ யாரையாவது விரும்பராளா அப்படின்னு கேட்ட பிறகு தான் மாப்பிள்ளை பார்க்கவே ஆரம்பிச்சேன்.அதனால நீங்க இந்த விஷயத்துல கொஞ்சம் யோசிச்சு முடிவெடுங்க.நான் விசாரிச்ச வரைக்கும் அந்த பையன்  நல்லவன்,நல்ல வேலையில  இருக்கான்.நீங்களும் உங்க பொண்ணு கூட உக்கார்ந்து பேசி ஒரு நல்ல முடிவு எடுங்க.அவ்வளவு  தான்.தயவு செஞ்சு அவள  திட்டாதீங்க.சரி நான் வரேன், உங்க பொண்ணு வர நேரம் ஆகிடுச்சு என்று சென்றான்.

இதை கேட்ட ஆறுமுகமும் , அருணாவும் இது தான் வாழ்க்கையா!! என்று தலை குனிந்து தன் மகளின் விருப்பத்தை நிறைவேற்ற என்ன செய்யலாம் என்று யோசிக்கத்தொடங்கினர்.

- கோ . அஜய் 

அப்பா!

 


 பள்ளியிலிருந்து வந்த ராகவ், அப்பா எங்கே என்று கேட்டான்.

"அப்பா இப்போ தான் டா வேலையிலிருந்து வந்தார்.அவர் கட்டில்ல  தான் உக்கார்ந்துட்டு இருக்கார்.என்ன  விஷயம்  கண்ணா!" என்றாள் பவித்ரா,ராகவின் அம்மா.

"இல்லம்மா அப்பாகிட்டே ஒண்ணு கேட்கனும் நான் அவர் கிட்டயே அதை கேட்டுக்கறேன்"  என்றான் ராகவ்.

"ஹே நில்லு டா அப்பா இன்னும் முகம் கூட கழுவல..ராகவ் குட்டி நில்லு!!" என்று  தன் ஆறு வயது  மகனை நிறுத்த முற்பட, அதற்குள் அடுப்பில் ஏதோ சத்தம் கேட்க,"என்னவோ பண்ணு டா" என்றபடியே சமயலறைக்குச் சென்றாள்.

ராகவ் கட்டிலில் இருந்த அப்பாவிடம், "அப்பா அப்பா!

எனக்கு ஒரு  சந்தேகம்!!!"

ஏதோ யோசனையில் இருந்த அப்பாவிடமிருந்து எதுவும் பதில் வரவில்லை.

மீண்டும் "அப்பா அப்பா இங்க பாருங்களேன்.எனக்கு ஒரு சின்ன சந்தேகம் பா"..  என்றான் ராகவ்.

 "என்னடா! இப்போ ஒன்னும் சொல்ல முடியாது ,அப்பா கோபமா இருக்கேன் போய்டு இல்லைனா அடி தான்" என்று தன் அலுவலகத்தில் காட்ட முடியாத கோபத்தை இந்த பிஞ்சு குழந்தையிடம் காட்டினார் ராகவின் அப்பா.

 ராகவ் கண் கலங்கிய படியே அம்மாவை நோக்கிச்  சென்றான்.

இதற்குள் வெளியே சென்றீருந்த ராகவின் தாத்தா களைத்த முகத்துடன் வீட்டிற்க்குள் வந்தார்.

ராகவின் அப்பா தன் அப்பா வந்ததை பார்த்து, "அப்பா அப்பா கொஞ்சம் நில்லுங்களேன்!" என்றார்.

அவரும் "என்னடா சொல்லுடா..ஏன் இந்த அவசரம்.என்ன விஷயம் சொல்லு பொறுமையா" என்றார். ராகவின் அப்பாவும் தன் தந்தையிடம் தன் சந்தேகங்களை கேட்க, அவரும் பொறுமையாக அதற்கு பதில் அளித்தார்.ஒரு பத்து நிமிட பேச்சிற்கு பிறகு ராகவின் தாத்தா " மருமகளே கொஞ்சம் காபி கொடும்மா" என்று உள்ளே சென்றார்.

இதையெல்லாம் பார்த்துக் கொண்டிருந்த பவித்ரா, சமையல் அறையிலிருந்து வெளியே வந்தாள் ராகவுடன்."மாமா இங்க பார்த்தீங்களா உங்க  மகன் செஞ்சதை.அவர், நீங்கள் வந்ததும் வராததுமாக ஏதோ கேட்க நீங்கள் எவ்வளவு பொறுமையாக பதில் சொன்னீங்க. அனால் அவர்  அலுவலகத்திலிருந்து  வந்தவுடன் ஏதோ கேட்க நினைத்த ராகவிடம் எரிந்து விழுந்திருக்கிறார். பாவம் அந்த குழந்தை மனசு எப்படி இருந்திருக்கும்.உங்க மகனுக்கு கொஞ்சம் எடுத்து சொல்லுங்க மாமா" என்றாள்.முகம் குனிந்து நின்றிருந்த தன் மகனை பார்த்து என்னடா இது! என்று பார்வையாலேயே கேட்டு விட்டு சென்றார் ராகவின் தாத்தா.

தன் தவறை உணர்ந்த ராகவின் அப்பா ,தன் மகனிடம் "இங்க வா ராகவ் குட்டி அப்பா  கிட்ட வா டா" என்று கூறிய படி சென்றான்.

Deteriorating English teaching in Indian Engineering colleges/The Pathetic Plight of aspiring Indian engineers in view of Communication

 

 Have you ever seen any engineering college giving importance to English language learning.Most of the times you would say no, as English is being treated as another subject to score rather to pass out before entering the main stream subjects in the second year.

Yes I agree that English is not our mother tongue in India.But still it has become the universal sign of communication with respect to everything, though not the world's first widely spoken language.

All the subjects are being taught in English in the college.The students may be from English medium or  any regional language medium that is not bothered.What bothers is that any one who becomes as engineer must be able to communicate and interact with the surroundings effectively in English.Iam not at the point that only engineers or any professional degree holders only need to be fluent in English.Any graduate for that matter is applicable.But being a professional degree, engineers have much more expectations in this regard.

Any engineering graduate these days aspires to earn more and get settled soon.So they plan to choose Information Tecnology (IT) most probably as their field of work though not interested much(!!).Knowingly or unknowingly they step into IT and of course they need to be more confident and eloquent with the English language.Not a complex sentence is required, but at least a grammatically right simple sentence which satisfies the other person to understand the needs is more than enough.

So it is evident now that fortunately or unfortunately English has become a vital part in every engineer's life.
I planned to write this matter here as I happened to attend a National seminar on soft skills.It was hosted by a renowned Engineering college in Chennai.I am an engineer and I have also seen and experienced how English is being taught in our college.I like English right from my childhood and so I have a passion for that for that case, any language.So I have been learning and practising English well and I'm confident enough to speak,write and read English effectively.OK now lets not deviate much.(!!)

The seminar had around 40 participants from various Engineering colleges and few Arts colleges across India.I was a participant and had accompanied my well wisher who had to present a paper on soft skills.The program started well and I should say that the hospitality was great from the college side.Few of the participants including the ones from arts colleges and engineering colleges were really great in presenting the paper.I'm not an English graduate or  an exponent in English.So I'm not commenting on the content of the paper.But as a lay man and a participant I can comment on the English used by the speakers to present.

I should say that many of the speakers who are lecturers in various top engineering colleges stammered to speak well in front of the public.The audience crowd was not huge to fear people.OK first time presenters can be granted.But then they are lecturers who teach lots and lots of students in their college everyday.They can tell their point in a simple and neat way.

Iam not happy in saying this actually.the basic grammar was also not correct.One of the presenters even used his regional language to communicate while presenting in the National level seminar.Few had just taken the content from the Internet and have not even prepared to present it well.Some of them just went through the PPt and replicated it as such.Due to all these reasons their body drooped with our confidence and hence body language for the presentation was also poor.

The judges were not happy with the presenters of course as mentioned earlier few exceptions were there.

The teacher is unable to communicate well and hence the students too.The same teacher teaches lots of people every day and think about their plight.Those students from regional language mediums suffer as victims and of course English medium students can manage to some extent.These lecturers were arts students and could have emerged as successful students when they were in their college.But When it comes to teaching that too in engineering college's they fail miserably.

There are many reasons behind that.The prime is the lack of importance given to Humanities and Sciences in the engineering colleges compared to main streams.The English professors are not  being paid much and are not encouraged to exhibit and enhance their skills.They are not involved in many developmental activities in the college,Since the management doesn't value English and its teachers well ,the students too follow that.

The second thing is that there are numerous engineering colleges every where we turn around.Every college needs English teachers and its not possible that each of them gets efficient,proficient teachers as the number of engineers graduated every year is much much greater compared to the number of English graduates passed every year.I feel that way and not any survey says like that.

Finally due to the above reasons the professors lose interests and just come for the pay they get.
It doesn't happen every where but it happens mostly.So to improve this sorry state ,the management,students ,staffs and parents need to co operate with each other and  plan and execute things successfully.

Most of the engineers are rejected in the campus interviews in the Group Discussions(GD) due to poor English speaking skills.Language learning is an art .It needs to be focused and shapened well.Its in the hands of every one associated with that to make it work victoriously.Lets join hands and celebrate English learning.

The World of Attitudes

Hi people..I am going to introduce and take U all to a new world i.e.. the World of Attitudes.So come on and travel with me there through this post.
The world revolves with the Latitudes and Longitudes which are based on Altitudes;Similarly We revolve with our Attitudes.So every where the word "Tude" plays a major role.

Attitude is not an approach and the notion that we have towards anything, for that sort it can be anything from a small ant to antelope or Ami's etc....I would say attitude is a reaction to every action hence its like a stimulus.What ever we have in our mind will be reflected in our actions.That's an attitude.If we try to hide the reality in us and pretend ,that is also an attitude which will not last long.
Attitude, off late, has become a "Corporate" term.Every where U go in an IT firm u will be able to hear this word quite often used.I couldn't understand in the beginning, what is an attitude all about.....But then my experience with the industry made me understand that the attitude which they mention in corporate ethics is behavior.It is again the behavior, right from a security to a manager.
In the beginning I said I'm going to introduce to a new world.But I feel for the so called "Corporates" this is not a new thing and its quite a disgusting thing as the entire carrier is based on this attitude and of course appraisal too...What ever or how ever good U perform it matters to a very menial extent.But the majority is for the Attitude which we have and which we pose towards people in various situations.


 They define few types of attitude too....Assertive,Aggressive and Submissive.Hm in this post I would like to emphasis and discuss on the Corporate meaning of the word attitude and how it is misused and miss using people too.
 Aggressive attitude is a straight forward reacting attitude but with Lil harsh emotions.For example if a team member asks another member to help him and if the person responds "No I cant,U ask some one...." it refers to an aggressive attitude and of course behavior.
Submissive is to oblige to everyone and everything around u lacking individuality and leading to a non vertebrate attitude.For instance U have some important work and Ur buddy(" so called colleague-friend in corporate") asks u for some help...U r not refusing and u r taking it not knowing how to refuse to him in a descent way and also due to Lil scare.At the same time U r being offered a very urgent work by Ur PM and U accept it too.See u r in a mess now but u think that u r good to every one at one point.But u r letting the trouble in to Ur own pocket.

These two attitude forms(aggressive and submissive) are like digging Ur own grave.Its not good to be harsh to a person as well as very soft , making them to boss u.
So the third form(assertive) is the best one.Assertiveness is to make things done by some person by going along his way.For instance if a person asks u for a help and u r busy with an urgent work,U can deny him but in a polite way.U can say " Hey sure let me help U but can U give me few minutes,I am in the verge of completing an important task,Let me complete quickly and definitely help U after that..U also keep trying and I l for sure join U".This is a neat and descent way of expressing our views and refusal....U may help him or not or he could have completed his work by the time U go and ask him.That's not the problem,but the person is not sad as U have explained Ur state in a clear way there by encouraging him to continue his efforts and U have not expressed Ur denial aggressively.


But I feel the third form portrayed as the best to deal with people officially and now a days even personally is like a form of selfishness and a pleasant insult.I feel personally its better to tell openly what we feel to a person than beating on the bush.But We have to tell it politely.Anyways every one in this world is living for something only.So there is no separate class of people called selfish people.


OK now Am going to bring in another familiar term for all the ITans that is bottle neck.The literal meaning of it is some obstacle in our task completion successfully.But here Am going to give a new coined meaning for it.I have seen few people in my work place,when they join the company they will be very usual.Lil fearing and professional.But after few days suddenly I have seen their neck raising like a bottle's neck and it will be facing the sky only.Are they trying to discover anything in this space????I wonder....But they will be putting up an attitude and looks in a strange way.They wont mind people, wont respond properly to them, remain aloof,and pride.Why this happens....This bottle neck is a bottle neck for their success definitely.When people start talking about them in groups they think that they are in a high position and every one is mean and comparitively lower to them.Since they have joined newly everyone will be eager to know about them.It will lasts for few days only.But because of this thinking, high attitude people will lose good contacts and helping minds near them in the vicinity.

There are lot many examples for attitude.But to put it in a nut shell I wont say attitude depends on people and it varies from people to people.It depends on situation and how best we use that situation.People who know how to face their life and get along knowing how to react in different situations to different people is finally the attitude.Our attitude decides our altitude.


Thanks for reading this post patiently.That's a good attitude.Ha ha haaaaaaaaa....

Responsibilities......

I have seen few of my friends longing to watch a movie several days before its release.But when i ask them the review after its release,they will say that they don't have time to watch it.I wonder why it happens....but of late I have been facing such situations quite often and of course my friends know well about this than me.When others accept to do a thing in the beginning and then deny it all of a sudden,we are not in a position to get the justification from them in the right sense as our work is not done or its not with in our so called good.But if we are in the answerable place we will definitely feel what the other person did was right.we are not usually analyzing others from their point of view but only from our point of view.This is an unilateral analysis.Though its not a good sign it happens definitely as we have our own priorities and if those are not done on time we will always try to make others the victim to hold the blame.

       

Here comes the word Responsibility and Priority.....Why this occurs....The priorities keep on changing with time and matter.Of course that is the world.But is there any way to accomplish our responsibilities and enjoy our wishes and desires too at the same time.There are lot of differences between the desires and the responsibilities.I desire to be a "Be good to all person".But my priorities make me to camouflage with time.I don't like this at all and I don't do it deliberately too.I have a big question of whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy......I have been using the words priority and responsibility often in this post and will be using too .Sorry the reason is not only that this post is about responsibility but also I'm quite confused with lot of responsibilities and prioritizing them.

  

  

The word responsibility can be defined by experts.but i don't want to define it as it is dynamic and of course makes us to be dynamic both positively and negatively.I heard its not good to take up responsibilities as burdens and hardships but its better to take them as it comes in a pleasant way like eating our favourite ice cream with our beloved in our favorite spot.But that sounded impossible for me when i heard for the first.Now i feel its possible but i don't no and I'm quite strange to know how to make it possible.

People say its advisable to adapt to things and situations rather than lamenting about them which may spoil our health too.But i feel sometimes that adaptability can lead to transition too.I am scared that shouldn't happen as a part of completing our responsibilities.

  

I even tried books as a remedial source for balancing the moral responsibility and our hearty longings.But I felt unless we experience things we cant understand things just by reading.We can put few things in to action as a result of reading the book but can we depend on that alone?.I think its "no" as it itself contains few instances from others life that has shaped them.I'm sure the instances will differ for each one of us.

  

I will tell a good example which happened to me very recently.I wanted to go to my aunt's house and stay there for a week just to have a change and all my cousins have come there.I really wanted to spend some time with them as they don't visit frequently here.I told my Mom and she first exclaimed" oru vaaramaa?!" then she said ok because she also knows the above things.I invited her too.But she said she cant stay there for a week as she has her own responsibilities(C....!).I went there.My mom was all alone in my home.but she said she s fine with things as she s used to that for years.Though she s alone she has lot of things to be done on her daily basis and hence lot of good companions.C the point here is this happened between me and my mom and we are fine with it.I will definitely call her frequently and enquire and on the happenings and if important she herself will call me and my sister stays near to us so she can go there if she feels odd to stay alone.There ends the matter.But it dint end there.

  

   

All my other relatives,neighbors etc etc (so called society) started asking my mom right after the first day of my stay.." Why ur son left u all alone.He could have gone and come back the same day.U could have invited his cousins here.U could have gone with him.Staying alone...Oh my god...U r a Diabetic patient and u stay alone.Call him here...Why cant he understand his responsibilities?

Here comes the problem....We are individuals but not individually destined to live.We are bound to the society in some or the other way though we don't want to be.My mother is ok with this,my sister is ok with this,im ok with this but some thing is posing a threat here.

My mom though she s bold will definitely get confused and discouraged by these onlooker's words." U stay in ur daughter's house....How long will u stay...one weekkkkkk..oh my god..what will ur son-in-law think of u..why ajay is like this..He s still childish"...See they tried to put a full stop to my mother's stay at my sister's house if both are fine too.They would have induced a feel of insecurity and distrust about me in my mom.C she s alone and hence prone to fall a prey to these powerful comments.But thank god she dint and thats what is a mom-child relationship.But many may fall and there are various instances like this.

   

We are used to these kind of things in our day to day life.We think we will leave these things behind and we will proceed towards our goals.But we cant.I feel like this; I'm experiencing it daily.

A responsibility is a responsibility only.If it has to be done by us we have to do it and can't escape from it as stated in the Bhagavath Gita by Lord Krishna. If we believe in god and have faith in him then we can leave the problems to him and think of a solution patiently with his grace.A super power that exists above us is god whatever form u want u can take it and experience it.I don't want to deviate much and get into sensitive talks about god and all.

  

  

Society has been playing a vital and pivotal role in our upbringing since ages.So its very hard to come out of the society norms,Morales,rules etc.But first we can at least start thinking on what we are going to do and then about the society and surroundings.Though they may be useful to us and there are various theories supporting that but still we should not rely on it as its not relying on us("me" alone).

OK I started at a point and now I'm Lil confused after all these emotional outflow.But I'm  able to conclude finally that responsibilities can be taken as boons to us as we have to do them and it will be better if we take them with pleasure and of course we will learn something new,interesting,strange too out of them.

The Female Trinity of South Indian Music

M.S.Subbulakshmi as Meera

M.L.Vasanthakumari

D.K.Pattamal in a concert

"Bhajagovindam Bhajagovindam"....On hearing this divine song no one would ever forget the writer Sri Adhi Shankaracharya for sure.But more than that the essence of the song detailing the A-Dhwaitham has reached and been reaching far-flung by the mesmerising voice that rendered the song.That was non other than the one and only M.S.Subbulakshmi maam.


Next the flavour of "Marghazhi month" is the chanting of the "Aandal Thirupaavai" which has been reverberating in temples,sabhas and houses with M.L.Vasantha Kumari maam's melufluos voice since ages.
Last but definitely not the least in the induction of Patriotic feel in the Tamil society with the thought provoking lines of Mahakavi,D.K.Pattamal maam's bold and emotional voice has played a vital role.

From the context itself its clear that these three legends were called the the "Female Trinity of Music".M.S.S,M.L.V and D.K.P marked their presence strongly in the world of South Indian music both in Classical and Cinema.The three gems shined with their respective kind of voices and still and ever be remembered.


Madurai Shanmughavadivu Subbulakshmi Maam's performance and songs in the movie Meera is an everlasting piece of excellence in music.Her rendition of "Kaatriniley and Giridhara Gopala" songs stimulates divinity and bhakthi in us.There a re lot of facts about her right from her childhood till her last breathe.But elucidating those facts and events are like creating a replica of WIKI which becomes a cliche by itself.This post is to salute the music exponents,their woks and master pieces and and not a biography.


M.S.amma r mami, as she is fondly called by her admirers had reached greater and greater altitudes in music especially the bhakti maarg.Vishnu Sahasranaama,Annamacharya kritis ,Hanuman chalisa etc are like composed for her to sing only.She is still living in her godly voice and songs with us.

M.S.S

In those ages (in 40s,50s,) it was very tough for a girl r woman to establish herself in any field other than being a genuine,silent,traditional house wife.But these eminent personalities broke those barriers and proved themselves a lot.


Especially D.K.P sang lot of national songs even before freedom and got acclamations and criticisms from various streams of people.But she continued with her full support from the family even after marriage and now her third generation (Dr.Nithiya sree maam) has established by the way that she paved long long back.


The songs like"Aaduvome","Vetri ettu" in the movie Naam Iruvar by A.V.M were outstanding and powerful.Her unique base and bold voice made her travel in a great path and reach higher altitudes in her carrier.


If M.S .S and D.K.P were two jewels then obviously M.L.V was a diamond.She took her own special way of singing whether it comes to classical or devotional r filmy and accomplished herself well which has again opened up way for their disciples like Sudha raghunathan Maam to establish herself.Her daughter the late veteran actress Srividhya also used to sing well.She faced a lot of difficulties in her life travel and expired at an young age comparitively..Else she would have never been replaced by any one.Even now she has not been replaced completely.Her "Thituppavai","Aadaatha manamum","Chinna chiru kiliyae","Ellam Inbha mayam","Ayya Saami" etc are exquisite works.Unlike M.S.S(especially her husband Mr.Sadhasivam), D.K.P she dint have much support from her family as she had to support her family's livelihood.


If discussed,this topic never ends as the accolades of these three precious women never ends.Though they are not with us their works are always there in us in each cell of us.They are universal gurus and inspirations for many.Though they were contempararies of their time, they never treid to outshine each other but excelled in their own streams.They not only achieved self credits abut made India to attain an invaluable name internationally.


"Aacharya Devo bhava".Thank you guys for reading this post patiently.

Short stories - A boon to readers

Ahhh Pages pages---456!!!!!!!!!!How will I read this...Oh my god.I have started but i don't no when i can complete.....ufffffff...i have seen people murmuring and struggling hard to read a bound,thick but good story book.Though its good to improve our reading habits,its human mentality to get things done at ease and faster but with same quality.

Short,sweet,crisp,precise stories are good examples for the above scenario remedy.U cant replace a novel by a short story but u can communicate the essence of a novel in a short story.Its a boon to the readers and (of course to lazy people also).When ever people find time they can complete a small r long story written shortly but wonderfully with all the necessary literary ingredients.People can also write their short works first and enhance their writing skills.

I prefer short stories; going goooooogooooooogaaaaagaaaaaaaa over them.......i like to write them too......I like my 6th-10th standard short story collections...i still have them in my rack.Its better to read a full story easily and patiently instead of reading the first few pages with full involvement and directly ending the book in no time.

I don't say that its always the best way to read and write short stories only.The elaborate description of a small event in a powerful way is effective in a novel compared to short stories.But still its a better way.

I will share my favourite short stories and sites for best story collections in my future posts.I will end up shortly as of now.

Introduction to Quite a few Quiet Musical Legends

The Music fraternity has got lot of well known legendary singers,composers,in all musicians who have got acclamations and accolades from every knook and corner of the world.But there are many invaluabe ,diligent,amazingly talented musicians who are away from popularity but have given and are giving sensible,great and melting music to us.


I would like to throw some light on those music thaansens whom i know and of course i adore.Hope u also would like it.

The first person here is Mr.Sriram Parthasarathy.One of most musically knowledgeable and down to earth person i have heard about is Sriram.He is so popular that he doesnt have an article realted to him in WIKI...(So sad,,,im gonna start one).Classically well established stepped into the world of South Indian Music after meeting the eminent composer Mr.Vidhyasagar.He sang his first few songs for Sagar which made him prove his uniqueness and the melufluency in his voice.One amog those was POO VAASAM from Kamal's Anbaeshivam.He is the disciple of Mr.Neyveli Santhana Gopalan.He has also sung for A.R.Rehman,Maestro Ilayaraja and other renowned composers.His voice sounds really fantastic and similar little to Dr.Jesudas but its distinct ofcourse.His way of rendering,uttering words have wooed me like anything.His classical performances are a real treat to our ears.He appreciates people by raising his hand and shaking his head ,enjoying the essence of music(Courtesy Airtel Super singer).He needs more and more encouragement from people like us and we shoud help him prove that influence alone cant make a person successfull if they lack in talent.Hope U people can listen to few of his melodious and heart soothening songs like

1.Poo vaasam(Anbae Shivam)
2.Elangaathu Veesudhaey(Pithamagan)
3.Chittu kuruvi(Parasuaram)
4.Dhindhindhara(Poovellam un vaasam)
5.Suttu vizhi(Ghajini)
6.Kelaamal(ATM)

Cute SMS....Innocent but sensible....

Cutest letter by a little kid:

Dear Maths!
                   Please grow up and solve ur problems by ur own.Dont nag me..

Music.......

Music is magic......Everyone likes some form of music.Every letter we use ,utter and speak has an inbuilt music in it.People who proclaim themselves as non music lovers do speak and hence experience and live with music only.

I would like to discuss in this blog about the various forms of music and the musical traits and practices that have been followed by us.

Indian music as such is very old (goes back to ages) in origin abut very very new and is blossoming every day in a new form,aspect and dimension.I would like to dedicate some rather an important portion of this blog to the music legends and the divinity in music.Also am happy immensely to discuss and write about the filmy transitions in music in India and the essence of the musical tunes.

Though not very depth drilling to ragas,talas,notes and nuances,from a lay man point of view what is music and how is it evolving in our lives is what i want o share here.

This is an introduction only and we will enjoy music here soon....All are welcome to share their invaluable thoughts on the same and drench in the rain of music.


---Ajay----

vanakkam

அனைவருக்கும்  வணக்கம்.இந்த ப்லோகின் முதல் பதிப்பாக என்னுடைய ஒரு கதையை நீங்கள் படித்து மகிழலாம். உங்களது விமர்சனங்கள் வரவேற்க படுகின்றன.
தேங்க்ஸ் இன் அட்வான்ஸ்.