Responsibilities......

I have seen few of my friends longing to watch a movie several days before its release.But when i ask them the review after its release,they will say that they don't have time to watch it.I wonder why it happens....but of late I have been facing such situations quite often and of course my friends know well about this than me.When others accept to do a thing in the beginning and then deny it all of a sudden,we are not in a position to get the justification from them in the right sense as our work is not done or its not with in our so called good.But if we are in the answerable place we will definitely feel what the other person did was right.we are not usually analyzing others from their point of view but only from our point of view.This is an unilateral analysis.Though its not a good sign it happens definitely as we have our own priorities and if those are not done on time we will always try to make others the victim to hold the blame.

       

Here comes the word Responsibility and Priority.....Why this occurs....The priorities keep on changing with time and matter.Of course that is the world.But is there any way to accomplish our responsibilities and enjoy our wishes and desires too at the same time.There are lot of differences between the desires and the responsibilities.I desire to be a "Be good to all person".But my priorities make me to camouflage with time.I don't like this at all and I don't do it deliberately too.I have a big question of whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy......I have been using the words priority and responsibility often in this post and will be using too .Sorry the reason is not only that this post is about responsibility but also I'm quite confused with lot of responsibilities and prioritizing them.

  

  

The word responsibility can be defined by experts.but i don't want to define it as it is dynamic and of course makes us to be dynamic both positively and negatively.I heard its not good to take up responsibilities as burdens and hardships but its better to take them as it comes in a pleasant way like eating our favourite ice cream with our beloved in our favorite spot.But that sounded impossible for me when i heard for the first.Now i feel its possible but i don't no and I'm quite strange to know how to make it possible.

People say its advisable to adapt to things and situations rather than lamenting about them which may spoil our health too.But i feel sometimes that adaptability can lead to transition too.I am scared that shouldn't happen as a part of completing our responsibilities.

  

I even tried books as a remedial source for balancing the moral responsibility and our hearty longings.But I felt unless we experience things we cant understand things just by reading.We can put few things in to action as a result of reading the book but can we depend on that alone?.I think its "no" as it itself contains few instances from others life that has shaped them.I'm sure the instances will differ for each one of us.

  

I will tell a good example which happened to me very recently.I wanted to go to my aunt's house and stay there for a week just to have a change and all my cousins have come there.I really wanted to spend some time with them as they don't visit frequently here.I told my Mom and she first exclaimed" oru vaaramaa?!" then she said ok because she also knows the above things.I invited her too.But she said she cant stay there for a week as she has her own responsibilities(C....!).I went there.My mom was all alone in my home.but she said she s fine with things as she s used to that for years.Though she s alone she has lot of things to be done on her daily basis and hence lot of good companions.C the point here is this happened between me and my mom and we are fine with it.I will definitely call her frequently and enquire and on the happenings and if important she herself will call me and my sister stays near to us so she can go there if she feels odd to stay alone.There ends the matter.But it dint end there.

  

   

All my other relatives,neighbors etc etc (so called society) started asking my mom right after the first day of my stay.." Why ur son left u all alone.He could have gone and come back the same day.U could have invited his cousins here.U could have gone with him.Staying alone...Oh my god...U r a Diabetic patient and u stay alone.Call him here...Why cant he understand his responsibilities?

Here comes the problem....We are individuals but not individually destined to live.We are bound to the society in some or the other way though we don't want to be.My mother is ok with this,my sister is ok with this,im ok with this but some thing is posing a threat here.

My mom though she s bold will definitely get confused and discouraged by these onlooker's words." U stay in ur daughter's house....How long will u stay...one weekkkkkk..oh my god..what will ur son-in-law think of u..why ajay is like this..He s still childish"...See they tried to put a full stop to my mother's stay at my sister's house if both are fine too.They would have induced a feel of insecurity and distrust about me in my mom.C she s alone and hence prone to fall a prey to these powerful comments.But thank god she dint and thats what is a mom-child relationship.But many may fall and there are various instances like this.

   

We are used to these kind of things in our day to day life.We think we will leave these things behind and we will proceed towards our goals.But we cant.I feel like this; I'm experiencing it daily.

A responsibility is a responsibility only.If it has to be done by us we have to do it and can't escape from it as stated in the Bhagavath Gita by Lord Krishna. If we believe in god and have faith in him then we can leave the problems to him and think of a solution patiently with his grace.A super power that exists above us is god whatever form u want u can take it and experience it.I don't want to deviate much and get into sensitive talks about god and all.

  

  

Society has been playing a vital and pivotal role in our upbringing since ages.So its very hard to come out of the society norms,Morales,rules etc.But first we can at least start thinking on what we are going to do and then about the society and surroundings.Though they may be useful to us and there are various theories supporting that but still we should not rely on it as its not relying on us("me" alone).

OK I started at a point and now I'm Lil confused after all these emotional outflow.But I'm  able to conclude finally that responsibilities can be taken as boons to us as we have to do them and it will be better if we take them with pleasure and of course we will learn something new,interesting,strange too out of them.